I got an email back from a dj that we have been in negotiations with, i asked him how many songs he would accept as requested prior to the event from me, now 90% of my guest list listens to the same rock/metal/indrustial music i do and would hate if most of the evening was chart music. this was the reply i got "I can say for certain that it can be very hard to keep guests entertained and on the dance floor if playing entirely from a client’s request list."
Am i being a diva or would it make more sense for me to give him a massive list of about 100 songs to play rather than about 20 so he knew what else we would actually dance to rather than playing rhianna or one direction or kanye west all night. coz if he did that i know my guests would probably leave and i would be so upset. We dont have your usual taste in music in the slightest and im worried that im just going to keep ending up with dj's that dont want to play the music we like and only the music they like all night. this is the 4th time this has happened btw
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CommentAuthorLegoWife
Ask him what else he intends to play, wedding Dj's should play a bit of everything because all sorts of people are at weddings, the oldies and the kiddies etc. So I imagine that's what he intends to do?
That said, our DJ will play anything we ask him to so you might be better off finding someone else!
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CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
We picked about 40 songs - 20 'must plays' and 20 'if you have time to play's', and we also had an endless list of 'do not play under any circumstances'. We also had our first dance song which was followed by a specific song. Our guests were able to 'pre-order' up to 5 tunes each, which we then had the facility to agree or veto, as we saw fit. By doing this, he got a really good idea of the kind of music we wanted. He did a great job and the dance floor was packed all night. Personally, I'd say if he is being this inflexible, I'd be considering a different DJ.
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CommentAuthorhello-kitty
We're not having kids at our wedding haha! see right here is the list i have and have sent him now i think thats pretty varied tbh! but it is all music that my guests will listen to and have either requested me to put on said list or i know they will listen to. i know for a fact there are several songs on here he wont have because they are jpop songs
1. Architects – heartburn. (our first dance) 2. Goo goo dolls – Iris. 3. Kenny loggins – playing with the boys. 4. Righteous brothers - you've lost that loving feelin. 5. The calling – Wherever you will go. 6. 30 seconds to Mars – Kings and Queens. 7. Lady gaga – Judas 8. David bowie - dance magic dance 9. Paramore – Ignorance. 10. The wannadies – You and me song. 11. Black veil brides – Rebel love song. 12. Black veil brides – Fallen angels. 13. Foo fighters – best of you. 14. Uncle kracker – Smile. 15. Jamariquai – Love foolosiphy. 16. Kid rock – All summer long. 17. Lynnard skinnard – Sweet home Alabama. 18. My chemical Romance – I'm not ok. 19. My chemical Romance – NaNaNa 20. Wheatus – teenage dirtbag 21. ANYTHING BY PHILL COLLINS! 22. New radicals – What you give. 23. Limp bizkit – Rollin. 24. Haddaway – What is love? 25. Start playing any song you want then fade it out and play Rick Astley - Never Gonna Give You Up! Gotta rick roll my guests! 26. Wham – Club tropicana 27. Lady gaga – Just dance 28. Toploader – Dancing in the moonlight 29. Bon jovi – It's my life 30. Lonestar – Amazed 31. Green day – Basket case 32. Train – Drops of jupiter 33. B.o.B feat haley williams – Airplanes 34. Natasha bedingfeild – Unwritten 35. Christina Perri – A thousand years. 36. Maroon 5 – This love 37. The black eyed peas – where is the love 38. Alicia keys – no one 39. Katy perry – Firework 40. Lifehouse – hanging by a moment 41. Santana ft rob thomas – smooth 42. Pink – So what? 43. Michael jackson – You rock my world 44. Outkast – Hey ya! 45. Usher ft lil john – Yeah 46. Kesha – Tik tok 47. Lady gaga – Bad romance 48. Shakira – Whenever, Wherever 49. Poison – Nothing but a good time 50. Avenged sevenfold – Bat country 51. Fountains of wayne – Staceys mom 52. Linkin park – What i've done 53. Sum 41 – Fat lip 54. Kings of leon – Sex on fire 55. 30 seconds to Mars – The kill 56. Red hot chilli peppers – the zephyr song 57. Red hot chilli peppers – cant stop 58. My chemical romance – Teenagers 59. Smash mouth – I'm a believer 60. Tenatious d – Tribute or wonderboy 61. Fall out boy – This aint a scene 62. Sum 41 – In too deep 63. Motley crue – If I die tomorrow (please play this it's one of my fav songs) 64. Bryan adams – Summer of '69 65. Cascada – Everytime we touch 66. Chesney hawks – the one and only 67. Duran duran – Rio 68. Duran duran – The reflex 69. Fleetwood mac – Go your own way. 70. Gwen stefani ft Akon – Sweet escape 71. Journey - Anyway you want it (NOT THE GLEE VERSION!) 72. Orianthi – Shut up and kiss me 73. Guns n roses - Paradise city 74. Pendulum – Watercolour 75. Rancid – Fall back down 76. Pendulum – Witchcraft 77. The Darkness – I believe in a thing called love 78. The offspring – Original prankster 79. The Prodigy – Omen 80. Yuna ito – Precious 81. Yuni ito ft Celine dion – Anata ga iru kara (A world to believe in) 82. UVERworld – Qualia 83. UVERworld – Core pride 84. Hollywood undead – Everywhere I go (say this before this song is played though : People who went to rock night this should sound familiar... everyone else the bride apologises in advance haha!) 85. Hollywood undead – Gangster sexy 86. Placebo – One/Nancy boy/the bitter end 87. Korn ft Skrillex – Get up 88. Mindless self indulgence – Shut me up 89. Murderdolls – Summertime suicide 90. Andrew WK – Party hard 91. Elliot minor – Parallel worlds 92. Katy perry – Teenage dream 93. Miley cyrus – Cant be tamed 94. All american rejects – Gives you hell 95. (I am ashamed of this but gotta keep the bridesmaids happy) Glee – Loser like me 96. Foreigner – Waiting for a girl like you 97. Adam ant – Stand and deliver 98. Dead or alive – You spin me right round 99. Kenny loggins – Footloose 100. Billy ocean – Suddenly 101. Aha – Take on me 102. JLS – Everybody in love 103. Dima Bilan – Believe 104. 30 seconds to mars – Closer to the edge 105. 30 seconds to mars – From yesterday 106. Simple minds – don’t you forget about me 107. Adam Lambert – If I had you 108. Adam Lambert – For your entertainment 109. Backstreet boys – I want it that way 110. (please play this!) Neyo – Never knew I needed 111. Katy perry – ET 112. My chemical romance – Summertime 113. David bowie – China girl. 114. David bowie - Fashion
There are a couple of chart songs like katy perry and neyo and that but i dont want that played all night tbh.
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CommentAuthorTinkerbell
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If you know the kind of music your guests listen to then he should take notice although I've been to a lot of weddings where there are no requests because they are afraid of clearing the dance floor. We are hiring a jukebox because we didn't want a DJ deciding what music came next - in my experience they always play 90s dance around 11:30pm!
Hello-kitty, your playlist is very much like ours. I'm not at the pc at the mo but when I am I shall post ours.
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthorKarenB9
Just a thought if you have all the music that you would liked played and you think your dj might not play the music you like could you put music on your i pod and have it played through some speakers as a back up plan if you need to sack our dj on the night or dont bother with a dj and higher some lights and just play your music
CommentAuthorhello-kitty
The only thing with doing it ourselves is the insurance and decent speakers etc. i cant see why he's being so picky, we're paying him and its our night (guests and us as a couple)
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CommentAuthorlizzylou
I'd consider a differnt DJ if he is that inflexible. x
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CommentAuthorNicholaP44
at the end of the day ur paying 4 a service and if he isnt giving u that service id shop around and get wot u want. xx
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CommentAuthorMrsLowe
I second that nicholap44! you are paying for his service not for what he thinks or wants to play on the night for himself, its your day/night x
CommentAuthorLegoWife
Looks pretty varied to me, sounds like he's just being difficult :/
Reminds me to ask our DJ about non-english songs though, I need some Girls Generation at my wedding lol
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CommentAuthoremmaaa
In certain circumstances I can kind of see where he's coming from, we have DJ friends who really dislike being given a numbered list by the organisers, because just because it's the organiser's favourite music doesn't necessarily mean it'll work in a wedding disco format, even if the guests are all into the same stuff. To be honest, unless you can find a DJ who has an interest in your type of music, I think you may be better off doing your own playlist off a laptop / ipod, without the knowledge of the music I'd imagine it would be difficult to mix / crossfade expertly and respond to the crowd, or even know which songs to play in what sequence, and if you give him a rigid list, he's just being a person shaped lappie anyway!
Having said that, as you said, it's your wedding, you have final say in what gets played! I'd definitely either find someone else more sympathetic to your musical taste or just do it yourselves. Alternatively, if your guests are all into the same stuff and any of them are capable, you could always rope a few of them into doing some sets themselves? x
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
Our play list, think this is going to be enough as will be no more than 3 hours worth.
1. Cold play yellow 2. Kasabian fire 3. Kaiser chiefs I predict a riot 4. Kaiser chiefs ruby 5. Kings of leon be somebody 6. Crowded house weather with you 7. Wild cherry play that funky music 8. Donna summer hot stuff 9. Def leppard animal 10. Elo mr blue sky 11. Flo n the machine you got the love 12. Foo fighters rope 13. Foo fighter walk 14. Free alright now 15. Greenday holiday 16. Guns n roses sweet child of mine 17. Muse Supermassive black hole 18. Muse Knights of Cydonia 19. Adele rolling in the deep 20. Oasis champagne supernova 21. Prince purple purple rain 22. The phicadelic furs pretty in pink 23. Razor light before I fall to pieces 24. Razor light America 25. Reef place your hands 26. Shaggy it wasn’t me 27. Snow patrol hands open 28. Snow patrol headlights 29. The temper trap sweet disposition 30. The wombats moving to new York 31. Faithless insomnia 32. Underworld born slippy 33. Ggroove armada superstylin 34. Robert miles children 35. Prodigy worriors dance 36. Billy Idol White wedding 37. Sam and the Womp – Bom Bom Bom 38. Nicki Minaj – Pound the Alarm 39. Jessie J – Price Tag 40. Olly Murs – Dance with me tonight 41. Calvin Harris Ft Example – We’ll be coming back 42. Will.I.Am – This is Love 43. Nicki Minaj – Starships 44. Olly Murs – This ones for the girls 45. Jessie J – Laserlight 46. Chris Brown – Don’t wake me up 47. Fast East Movement – Turn up the love 48. Two Door Cinema Club – This is the life 49. Tulisa – Young 50. Rhianna Ft Calvin Harris – We found Love 51. Foo Fighters – Best of you 52. Lynnard Skinnard – Sweet home Alabama 53. Bryan Adams – Summer of 69 54. Stereophonics – Mr Writer 55. Duck Sauce – Barbra Streisand.
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthorhello-kitty
OMG legobride You are a legend!! i love girls generation!!
Yeah emma i could do. i like the jukebox idea but can you program it with your own songs?? as that would be awesome!!
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
When I first read your top post, I could sort of see where the DJ was coming from...
But having read your playlist, I think you have a great selection of songs, some of which would definitely get me and my friends up on the dance floor! I love summertime by mcr, was debating having it as our first dance song.
Send him the list and see what he says. If he's a professional, he will listen to some of the more obscure songs anyway so will know when to fit them in. We are having a mixture of band and DJ, the band have said that the do have a standard set list for weddings which they prefer to play, but will email us a copy over so that we can see what we want and veto or swap any. They will also learn our first dance song,'last night on earth' by green day which is great. Or could you ask to see a playlist incorporating at least some of your songs? At least then you will be able to veto.
I agree though that if he is being this inflexible, he might not be the sort of DJ you want. Xx
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
Glitterfairy, sweet child of mine and summer of 69 ate a must at any wedding in my opinion!
Xx
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CommentAuthorVelcro
If I got a dj that refused to play what i wanted at my wedding when im paying him, id be telling him to sling his bloody hook. You're paying him for his service, if you want his opionion Im sure you will ask for it
Id be outraged if I was told I couldnt have too much Muse or James etc. I think he's be sacked on the spot if he dared say Rhianna at me as well haha
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CommentAuthorhello-kitty
I'm just frustrated with it, i have had cds that i made as a teen that are titled songs i want at my wedding and theres about 10 of them and it's just a bit meh that they are being a bit annoying about it. i get it they want the guests to be happy but even so, i have stupidly varied tastes as you can see from the list but i also know what i have been planning for years and i think i will be disappointed if it doesnt live up to that. my fault entirely but hey..... i know what i want!
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CommentAuthorSam
I'd get him to make up a play list based on your music and what he thinks will work. If it's ready terrible I'd find someone else.
CommentAuthorLegoWife
I don't think DJ's are used to people with varied tastes lol, I suppose most people seem to stick to one genre.
Ours is going to have a job, H2B is strictly 60's 70's and a bit indy whereas I'm more about rock/metal and obscure Asian music which I don't imagine is going to mix together well!
But at the end of the day as long as me and h2b have something to dance and have a good time to, screw everyone else! It's our wedding lol!
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CommentAuthorShirleygirly
My dj has said no more than 80 requests but we are having him from the ceremony. I have asked for the likes of Frank Sinatra, Doris Day and Dean Martin for dinner as I have a vintage theme. The rest I can cope with variety as long as there are some good rock tunes and I have banned Lady Ga Ga and cheesy party songs but will allow Barbie Girl for my niece as its our song. I think the key issue is that you have paid for your DJ and it's your wedding so he needs to be mo flexible than 20 songs especially as you have a good mix.
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CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
I want Jack Johnson, James Morrison and Jason Mraz for the dinner part. All on random so that a bit of each gets played.
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CommentAuthorhello-kitty
I msged a couple more last night i am hoping they're going to be like yeah thats fine!!! but i wont hold my breath haha.
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CommentAuthorcherry82
I would personally be looking for another dj. Ours asked us at the beginning if we wanted our own playlist and we said yes. I have picked every song with some help from friends and family and our dj has been more than helpful. You know the type of music that your guests listen too so surely you should pick the music x
CommentAuthorSam
Fingers crossed that you find someone that shares your musical vision
CommentAuthorOfficialMrsField
Hmmmmm its strange when you are paying that they have denied you the playlist that you want at your wedding. Ours has just emailed me back saying I can send as many songs as I want to him and he will tailor the playlist to suit our exact requirements as (in his words) 'its our party'. I hope you find a DJ that has been as helpful as ours has been.x
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CommentAuthormichgib
you are employing this dj for your special day if you were not doing what your boss at work wanted you to do wouldnt something be said to you hope you sort it out xx
CommentAuthorstarbabe78
Hmmmm i never realised we had to do a list i best start remembering songs i like and who sings them as i i'm pretty useless at things like that, but no the song i like as soon as its played lol... luckily we have a friend who is goin to be our dj free of charge so am sure he will let us no what we need to do.
hello- kitty Some of your songs i dont think i've heard of but then again as i said before i'm useless at remembering names and that but no the song when it comes on if the dj was telling me that i couldnt have certain songs then i think i would personally be looking elsewhere after all what is the point of playing music that no one is gona get up and dance to and its your wedding day so you can have what you want. xx
CommentAuthorFitchMcCombe
This is the sort of thing i worry about, id really hate a shit dj lol think i might try and get friends who are up for it to take shifts lol x
CommentAuthorLauraJo87
A DJ can make or break the evening do...there is nothing worse than an empty dance floor, definitely ask to see a playlistnofnwhat he intends to play!mxx
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CommentAuthorMrsHarrison
I'd love to be a guest at your wedding with that playlist! Definitely ask him what he intends to play & if you don't like it say exactly what you want, it's your day after all. We're having a Green Day tribute band playing at our wedding, sure some of the guests will hate it haha but we can't wait!
CommentAuthorPenguinJ
You guys have definitely given me some ideas, we have a very eclectic music taste and dont want rubbish being played. I love 40's-80's music and rock. I was thinking of getting a laptop dj and just getting a playlist for him to download of whatever and then do a few requests here and there. also thinking of doing the 5 songs when you rsvp and then picking a certain amount of those to add to the list Plenty of time to plan though :D xxx
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CommentAuthorFutureMrsLuker
Me, H2B, our kids and my family and family friends are all into rock/heavy metal so i have discussed the following with our DJ: We are going to put loads of our favourite songs onto a USB stick and for the first hour (7-8PM) it is going to be our 'rock hour' and then from 8pm onwards we're going to have a mixture of the classic party tunes, a bit of 80's etc with one of our songs thrown into the mix every 3 or 4 songs. That way you keep everyone happy!
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