Should I buy a gift bag for one of my bridesmaids? I don't know if I'm just being petty so advice needed, I am going to buy gift bags to give out the night before wedding which will include things like robe, flute etc. But I am considering not getting one for one of the bridesmaids, I am paying for everything dresses, 2x hen do and hotels rooms for the night before wedding as i didnt want anyone not to be apart of my wedding due to money with the way things are at the moment. Bridesmaid in question is refusing to come to either hen do (1 messy one, 1 low key one), she is refusing to stay at the hotel before wedding, she has not replied to any messages to myself or maid of honour. TBH I wish I didn't ask her to be bridesmaid due to the lack of being evolved, i even suggested to come to a meal the night before she will not even turn up to a meal with all bridesmaid. I don't want to feel mean not getting her one but I would be giving them out the night before at the hotel, but I also don't want to spend more money on someone that clearly isn't bothered by my wedding.
I would tell her she isn’t a bridesmaid anymore to be honest!
If she can’t make an effort or give a proper reason then she shouldn’t be surprised.
If you are planning to give the gifts out the night before and she is refusing to stay then she can’t be upset when she doesn’t have a gift bag.
Bridesmaids are supposed to be your best friend who would do anything for you. If she can’t even come when you are paying then she sounds like the selfish one.
It does sound like she isn’t bothered and I would approach her about it and say how you feel! Don’t feel bad!
I would definitely just ask her to be a guest and not a bridesmaid, if she then refuses to come, that’s on her,
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